Hypnosis is just a name for a natural state of mind that everyone experiences numerous time a day, without even realising what is happening. It is actually a survival mechanism which is as old as the human race itself. It allows us to switch off from the incessant and possibly overwhelming amount of information streaming into our minds through our senses every second, in this state we are also able to process that information and reduce stress levels that have built up. We don’t even realise this is happening, and sometimes we may all of a sudden become aware that we were in a world of our own, oblivious to what was going on around us. This is hypnosis at its most natural

So hypnosis wasn’t invented. It was just simply discovered that a person could bring about this natural state purposely, and using language and the subjects imagination, bring about a desired positive change. Therefore when someone says they can’t be hypnotised, they say so without realising what hypnosis actuially is. In truth, they are simply resistant to being hypnotised for a number of reaons, which i will go into in another blog post. I’m off to watch a film now.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200304/the-benefits-meditation

In my opinion, and I know the meditators out there will disagree, but I believe that hypnosis is actually the same as meditation. I’m talking about the state of hypnosis here, where the mind and body are relaxed and peaceful, not what the therapist does after hypnosis has been induced…this is called the Intervention. So basically the hypnotist induces this relaxed state in the client, so that he/she is more likely to accept their desired new ways of thinking. In my experience as a hypnotherapist, most of the clients I have seen have reported the same sensations, feelings and calmness of mind that I have experienced during my own meditation sessions.
I would say that the only difference between the two states is the name, and what they are used for. If I find a study that shows physically that meditation and hypnosis are different…I will eat my words, and my hat.
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Why is this. Is it true that women are more open than men, or that they are more willing to explore their feelings? If this is true then why is that. Maybe it’s the classic social expectations of what a man should be like….strong, protecting. And to a man it’s possible that emotions are a sign of weakness, so therefore talking about them is admitting his “weakness”. Especially admitting them to me as a fellow man. Can the male ego overcome this? I hope so, because if only half of a relationship ie, the female side are only able to express and talk about their emotions, then what does that mean for future generations. Come on guys, let’s do something about this! You ca be strong AND talk about your feelings!! In fact that shows strength!

You are not who you think you are!
Whatever your issues are, and however bad they may seem, always remember that these are NOT who you really are! For example: if you have extreme feelings of lack of self esteem and confidence these are just learnt feelings about yourself from things that have happened to you in the past, and because of the way you feel, this makes you behave in such ways that will provoke reactions in other people that may seem to confirm what you believe. In truth these feelings are just false beliefs and in no way reflect who you are.

You have to remember that everybody reacts to the world and other people from their own point of view. Everybody has issues, and most people are controlled by these. So what you learnt in the past has come from people who may themselves have lack of self esteem, so they then unconsciously pass that on to you. So what does this mean for you? It simply means that your “hand me down” beliefs have shaped how you feel about yourself and that they are NOT the truth, they are false.

An example:

A 25 year old friend of mine has grown up believing she is ugly, stupid and unworthy. She has learnt this from her father…why? Because her father literally told her she was ugly, stupid, and her opinions were not important. And other things he did made her feel the same way. The reason she took these words as the truth was because she obviously looked up to her father and as a child there was no other reason why he would say those things… after all it’s our parents who teach us about the world. But in reality her father is stuck in his own tortured world of worthlessness and NO self esteem. So he was being controlled by these feelings and really couldn’t help what he was doing and saying. This was his own defence against these terrible feelings, he had to make someone else feel as he did and worse so that he at least felt better than someone else.
But how could he do that to his own child?.. you ask? Like I said, he was being controlled by his feelings as we all are to some extent.

So how does knowing that help you? Well read the story again and again and you will see the truth of it. By understanding why he said what he said, and that he didn’t know what he was doing, my friend can then come to a new belief that what he said was NOT true in any way. She has come a long way since I started helping her to see the past differently!

So…my advice is, to try to see through the behaviour and words of the people around you, for they are not the truth. Ask yourself why they do what they do, what must they believe about themselves and the world to make them do that? When you can see this, your whole perception will change, you will gain full self esteem and confidence and you will lose the destructive resentment and anger that goes with these feelings.

Please try to remember the story of my friend because it most definitely does relate to you and everyone else. It really will change your world once you really understand it fully!